Samang Kirok

For serious affairs that bear directly on oneself, if one does not take care of things by making his own judgment his foundation and breaking through headlong, matters will not be brought to a close. In conferring with people about matters of importance, there may be many cases when your affair is thought lightly of, or when people will not speak of the real circumstances. At such times one must use his own judgment. At any rate, it is sufficient to go crazy and choose to throw away one’s life. At such a time, if one thinks about doing things well, confusion will soon arise and he will blunder. In many cases one’s downfall may be brought about by an ally who is trying to do something for one’s benefit, or one may be killed by his friend’s kindness. It is the same as when one requests permission to become a monk. 

The Matheson Trust; Yamamoto, Tsunetomo, Hagakure: In the Shade of the Leaves, Section 94 (p. 26) http://themathesontrust.org/library/hagakure-book-of-the-samurai

There are many social threats to one's resolve, even from those who are concerned for you within their own understanding.  Do we want to mitigate the death brought on others by our own?

James Tissot [No restrictions or Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons